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Few of us have been spared the agonies of intimate relationships. They come in many shapes: loving a man or a woman who will not commit to us, being heartbroken when we're abandoned by a lover, engaging in Sisyphean internet searches, coming back lonely from bars, parties, or blind dates, feeling bored in a relationship that is so much less than we had envisaged - these are only some of the ways in which the search for love is a difficult and often painful experience. Despite the widespread and almost collective character of these experiences, our culture insists they are the result of faulty or insufficiently mature psyches. For many, the Freudian idea that the family designs the pattern of an individual's erotic career has been the main explanation for why and how we fail to find or sustain love. Psychoanalysis and popular psychology have succeeded spectacularly in convincing us that individuals bear responsibility for the misery of their romantic and erotic lives. The purpose of this book is to change our way of thinking about what is wrong in modern relationships. The problem is not dysfunctional childhoods or insufficiently self-aware psyches, but rather the institutional forces shaping how we love.
The argument of this book is that the modern romantic experience is shaped by a fundamental transformation in the ecology and architecture of romantic choice. The samples from which men and women choose a partner, the modes of evaluating prospective partners, the very importance of choice and autonomy and what people imagine to be the spectrum of their choices: all these aspects of choice have transformed the very core of the will, how we want a partner, the sense of worth bestowed by relationships, and the organization of desire.
This book does to love what Marx did to commodities: it shows that it is shaped by social relations and institutions and that it circulates in a marketplace of unequal actors.
|Format:||Paperback, 304 pages||Language:||English|
|Dimension:||22.61cm x 14.73cm x 2.03cm||ISBN10:||0745671071|
|Weight:||476g||ISBN13:||9780745671079||Publication Date:||06 Sep 2013||Publisher:||Polity Press|
Winner of the 2014 ASA 'Sociology of Emotions Recent Contribution Award "Illouz deserves recognition for a book that is innovative, significant, and goes a long way toward ensuring that the social and sociological aspects of 'love' will not be overlooked." American Journal of Sociology "A bold, thought-provoking book." Times Higher Education "An important book … full of arresting ideas about love in our time" Los Angeles Review of Books "A significant achievement, a major analysis of love and an important contribution to sociology. It deserves to have a wide readership wherever love is." The Australian "With its pathbreaking and often provocative hypotheses, Why Love Hurts will hopefully incite important debates about the ways that broader societal transformations shape our ‘inner lives’ and of how male dominance is increasingly exercised on the emotional level." Journal of Critical Realism "A valuable and much needed contribution to the Western discussion of how emotions and capitalism influence each other." KULT_Online "An insightful attempt at tackling the timely and difficult question of the relationship between romantic suffering and (post)modernity." FWSA Blog "Illouz interrogates the travails of modern love and charts a course through the emotional geography of contemporary feeling … [This book] will surely prove to make a valuable contribution as an addition to student reading lists, both for the ideas that it puts forward and for the lively debate and heart-felt discussion that it will generate among both women and men." LSE Review of Books "Like any sociologist worth her salt, Illouz pushes readers to consider how our experience of love might largely be created by the kind of society we live in. Tracing a sort of history of emotions through archives and literature since the Regency era, she argues that in earlier times people’s feelings about love and sentiment were quite different from those we take as self-evident .
. It is not our own fault love hurts, Illouz tells u
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